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Not perfect, but happy!

I stayed in a toxic marriage for years with someone who always made me feel beneath him. I was never worthy enough in his eyes. He had no respect for me, most of the time...I don't even think he respected himself. I thought by staying with my narcissistic cheating husband, it was best for my kids because I was keeping our family together...but it wasn't. It was slowly tearing me apart inside, the emotional and mental abuse I endured caused me to smile on the outside, but slowly die on the inside. I was losing my love of life, but GOD!
There was a better and brighter day ahead. I was surprised how much my older three children wanted their father and I to divorce, they said they knew I wasn't happy and it was then I knew it was okay...I was going to be okay and I am. I am finally living my best life. All the dreams he crushed, are now coming true. Doors have opened and life is amazing! It is said that God won't bring you so far, just to leave you and that is so true! Not only am I still standing, but I am standing tall and my smile is even bigger! But if you've seen my teeth, you'd smile too, they are gorgeous! :)


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