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This Song Speaks Volumes

This song actually speaks volumes. Don't ever think you need to settle, just to have someone love you. Love should not hurt. It took a long time for me to learn that. The best thing I did was divorce. My wasband is not a horrible man, we just weren't right for each other and we really tried to stay together and it just made a bad situation. Plus we were young, so the stress of kids, bills, jobs got to be a lot to handle. I remember one fight we had, he bit my mother said she could never get past seeing his teeth marks in my face. She said that broke her heart, especially because I stayed with him after that. The longer we stayed married, the less physical fighting we did, it was more emotional and mental. I think that was worse. When I found someone who loved me and encouraged me, it was like a breath of fresh air. The last three years have been a journey, but the best journey of my life. And I wish my wasband the best of happiness. Our time together was toxic, but we had some good times sprinkled here and there.
And my wasband will be first to tell you, that yes my ass got bigger, lol! 


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