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Not a hate you, but a thank you

People always tell me that I should hate my ex because of all he put me through. Now while it's true, we did not have seventeen years of bliss, there was a lot of pain. When I got married, of course, I thought it would be forever, but forever is a long time that doesn't always pan out. He walked out on our family when we needed him the most, at least I thought we did. Being married to a narcissist, you forget your identity. You take on a dependency that is hard to shake.

But I don't hate him, in fact, I thank him. Being in a toxic relationship taught me life lessons. I cried when it was over, because I thought I needed him, it was like he was the oxygen I needed, but it wasn't even close. Our relationship ending made me realize my worth. I learned that I deserved better. His leaving me, helped me find the woman I was supposed to be. The memories and the lessons I don't regret because they shaped me and I love the me I am today!

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