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A Co-Parenting Christmas!

It's no secret that the wasband and I did not have a peaceful divorce. We did not get along most of our separation leading to our divorce, but we decided to stop fighting and be civil for our kids last summer. So this past Christmas, he had our two kids for the week. My oldest two were on Christmas break from college and I realized for the first time, I wouldn't have all my babies on Christmas morning. I was sad, I wasn't ready for that, so I called the wasband and asked if the older kids and I could come over to take pictures. He said yes.

We ended up taking tons of pics and he even cooked breakfast and for the first time in years, we all sat at the same table and ate breakfast and then sat and talked and watched the kids play Call of Duty.
What meant more than anything, was seeing my children happy and us not arguing! When the older kids and I were getting ready to leave, my 15 asked for a family pic. I think we were both caught off-guard and he was reluctant at first, but we took one anyway, it didn't kill us and the sad thing, it was our first family photo in at least 10 years.

It took us awhile, we are finally getting this co-parenting thing down and in the process, we are learning how to be friends.


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