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It doesn't just happen overnight

Divorce doesn’t just happen one day out of nowhere. Divorce happens over a period of time. The relationship starts breaking down and we realize that we can no longer be together.  Many couples wake up after the break up happens, but why does it even have to get that far?  Spending endless nights worrying about what to do - to go for divorce or not? Why not to take care of the relationship today and find out what’s wrong and fix it.
 
Ask questions such as - Am I happy in my marriage/ is my partner happy? Am I emotionally satisfied? What about my partner? Is marriage giving us joy or pain? Are we still in love? Is one of us feeling victimized?  Are we loyal to each other? What kind of relationship do we share now? Are we feeling sick of each other?  Raise as many questions about your marriage, yourself and your partner as you can think of.
 
As you think of questions, you will start thinking more deeply about where your relationship is heading. Then you can truly start working towards improving your relationship; stay open in your communication, so you know how each other feels. Think, plan and act. Wake up now. Tomorrow may be too late.
 
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